I have had a problem in my past with sexual impurity. I could have a whole lot of excuses as to why I had this problem. I could say it was because of a generational curse, because of insecurity or because I just had not found the right person. Practice makes perfect right? If you don’t practice you can’t make anything perfect. Yet I have never known an excuse to solve a problem, change a character flaw or build Rome in a day.

I know that I don’t have a monopoly on this sin. I have dated long enough to realize that sex is expected before marriage in this day and age. Yet the Bible says that that is wrong.

Why on earth would a God, who says He is good, consider sex wrong in any context? I mean it is fun, it is an act of love and at times, it can be a bonding experience. It just didn’t make any sense.

When I was 50 years old I took inventory of my life and realized that my sexual impurity was not producing what I wanted. What I wanted was a man whom I could marry. I also wanted a marriage which would work and be God filled. I knew that God had a man in store for me but he had not entered my life yet.

So instead of seeing a relationship from my perspective, which was too look at it through the eyes of lust, I asked God to give me understanding. This was after I had severed relationships which had included sexual impurity.

I got the impression that sex wasn’t about the orgasm. It was about two separate human beings coming together to become one. I have seen the beauty of this many times when observing people who have wonderful relationships. They act as a team yet the team is so cohesive there is no separation between the two. A happily married couple is one of life’s greatest joys.

Yet as I searched God’s heart I realized there was more to this than the union of two to become one. Sex is more than a good feeling, it is a sacred act, and should be done only when God has been invited in. The invitation to God occurs when there is a covenant of marriage.

Throughout the process of meditating on this, Proverbs 9:10 has come to the forefront of my Biblical studies. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”

I realized that in addition to God showing me how special and sacred sex is, He also showed me the way to handle similar perplexing issues.It is a two part solution to problems.

First of all honor Him and His word. Obey that which is written, then seek to know His motivation for the rules which He has so graciously given to us.

I am still patiently waiting for God to show me the man whom He has set aside for me. In my waiting, I am trying to remain in His Word and seek His will for my life.