There are so many marriages which fail in this day and age. Some which you think have every chance of being successful. As I have watched this happen I have prayed about it and asked God what He intends marriage to be. This is what I think it is all about.

Marriage should be about two people coming together who really don’t like being apart. Both people should want to be with each other. Not just one person but both people. You don’t have to think the same way, nor do you need to even vote the same way.

You just need to enjoy each other, preferably without alcohol. Alcohol can temper or inflame feelings which are not normally present so it is best to not indulge until you really know this person and then in moderation.

Once you realize that this person is it you should have sex right?

No. You should not have sex until the eve of your marriage. Sex was not created for orgasm. It was created as a symbolic expression of you becoming one with another person after you have invited God into your midst.

As I have dated I have realized that the majority of men I date have one goal in mind. It is to have sex. Since I don’t do that anymore there is rarely a second date. That is just fine with me.

I do have some dear friends who I date occasionally and they know my principle on marriage. They respect my principle but they still try to get me in bed. So I am careful as to what I wear and what I do with friends such as this.

It is interesting that one of my friends whom I have dated off and on for over a year is a part of a relationship group. He has told them my views on premarital sex and all of the women in this group have said I was wrong. This dear friend has stood up for me and proclaimed that I was right. He still tries to get me in bed though. lol Sometimes I have to realize that God made men with a wonderful sex drive and I have to remain strong and abide by the principles that He has provided in His word.

As I see the breakdown of the family I wonder if we returned to abstinence if it would make any difference in the divorce rate. I don’t know but I think it may because when you invite God into your relationship He has a way of ironing out the wrinkles of the relationship.