I don’t have a lot of friends who are homosexual. I have a few whom I suspect are but it has not been their choice to come out of the closet.

One of my closest friends has a daughter who is a lesbian. He does not disapprove of her choice to be a homosexual. He loves her unconditionally. Nonetheless, they are estranged. It has been her choice to not communicate with her father, not his.

No one, including his daughter’s “wife”, can figure out why his daughter has chosen to become estranged from her father. It has broken his heart. We have had many discussions about this and I have tried to counsel him.

There was something he said the other day that struck a cord in me. She had said that “when she gave him an inch he took a mile.” This was in relation to the love he showed her.

I started thinking about the family dynamics between a Dad who wants to love his daughter and a daughter who is trying to become a husband to her wife. It can’t be easy for his daughter to figure out how to be a husband when her Dad keeps treating her like she is his “little girl.”

I shared this with him today in conversation and he said he thinks I may have called it right. I told him that his daughter is obviously having some conflict within herself and that the conflict most likely has nothing to do with anything he said or did. When she becomes comfortable with the choices she has made I think she will welcome her loving Dad back into her life.

This blog is in no way meant to support the recent Supreme Court decision on gay marriage. I think the Creator is the only one who has the right to say who should marry and who shouldn’t and I believe He made a man to mate with a woman. According to God homosexuality is not what He intended.

However, I am also not going to condemn those who choose another route, I pity them, because no matter what the government or media says, they still have a lot of internal conflict to work through.