Yesterday my daughter totally lost her cookies and directed her anger at me. She does that on a frequent basis and on the same frequency I usually dissolve into tears.

I don’t know how to deal with people screaming expletives at me and calling me names.

I have been surrounded all of my life by people who don’t know how to communicate in a mature manner when they are angry. They go all psycho on me and then claim that I am the psycho.

My mother was a screamer. She screamed over every little thing and terrorized us kids with her lack of control.

My ex was addicted to rage. He told me one time that he got his energy from being angry.

I never knew when he would explode, I just knew it would happen. Then once he had exploded he would be happy for  a short time until the pressure built up again.

My daughter has that same problem. She never says anything positive and if she doesn’t get her way she throws an all out hissy fit.

The one thing that all of these people have in common is that they lose all logic and reasoning once they start screaming. They cut off all effective communication because I will not lower myself to their level. They say things that they should never even think and they hurt deeply with the words they use.

One thing they rarely do is apologize because they are arrogant and think that their opinion is more important than the feelings of someone else who may be of a different opinion.

Yesterday I was in tears. Today I thought about what my daughter may have been trying to say but because of her lack of impulse control she didn’t say it in a manner that anyone would have accepted.

I pulled out of her verbal abuse her concern and left all of the horrible things that she had said to hurt me in the trash.

People that heap verbal abuse on others are immature and ineffective at changing people the way they want to change them.

Do you really think that calling a person names, cursing them to die and telling them that they are worthless is a good motivational tool?

If you do then I have some beach front property to sell you in Arizona.