Raising three young toddlers and working thirty-two hours on the weekends left little time for a social life.

I was attending a church with a single’s group when I was newly divorced. I  had my share of invitations to go out on dates.

I had one standing rule for those men. If it they wanted to see me when I had the children, they could guess again. It just wasn’t going to happen. I dated quite a bit but always worked it around my children’s schedule and when they would be at their father’s house.

I had a terrific babysitter, she was about thirty five miles from my house.  Even if she had been next door I wouldn’t have used her to go out on a date.

I analyzed what had went into this decision. I realized as hard as it was to be a single mom it was also one of the funnest things I had ever done. The dates, well… not so much.

So when one of my guy friends from church called me up and asked me to lunch one day when my youngest son was  home, I said “No, I don’t ditch my kids for a date.”  That became my motto for that time in my life.

Looking back I don’t miss even one of those men whom I dated or who wanted to date me. If my kids were estranged from me or if anything tragic happened to them, I would miss them like crazy. I think I may have made the right decision. This decision may be the reason why I am still satisfied and single also. 🙂