The times I have given second chances to someone have been few. There has always been a common thread among those second chances and that common thread is that they are never successful.

Recently I gave someone a second chance in my life. This person is a wonderful person whom I had dated for over four years and he was still crazy about me.

He had connected with God in a very special way after I had broken up with him. I thought that there would have been more changes.

There was a change but it wasn’t him who changed. It was me.

I was able to look at the relationship with honesty and realized that he loved me more than I could ever love him. I loved him enough to realize that and forced him to let go. He deserves someone who loves him as much as he loves them.

This time when I broke up there was sadness and grief. The first time I broke up there was anger and bitterness. I had broken up with him the first time because he had lied to me on two different occasions and that deceit had continued for four years.

This time he was truthful but I also had to be truthful. My love was insufficient for him. He also loved me in a way which caused me stress and anxiety. I felt like I was walking back into a cage and love should not make you feel like that.

Yesterday I volunteered at my church for their membership class and they talked about how my pastor had left another church to start the church I go to. He left with no hard feelings.

I am leaving this relationship with no anger or bitterness, just the realization that I need to move on. I also know I am leaving this relationship at the urging of the Holy Spirit.

It will not be easy but instead of feeding my anger with bitter memories, I will pray for God to bless this man with a wife who can please him. I know now that woman is not me.