Okay this is a post for people who continually compromise their values and standards in order to secure “love” in a relationship.
Why do we continue to put our hearts on the line when even in a baseball game a person is out on strike 3?
I want my readers to give me a pledge that they will agree to handle matters which hurt their heart in a specific manner.
Only let it happen three times. The first time confront the individual and tell him/her that their actions, attitude or words are unacceptable.
The second time you remind them in a very firm tone of voice that this is unacceptable and is not going to nurture any feelings of love.
The third time walk away and don’t look back.
I have wasted so much of my life giving people multiple breaks and second chances in relationships.
If a person lies to you once and you catch them at it then put your antennas up.
If they lie to you again it is time to start making your exit plan.
Three times and they are out of your life and they were probably lying all along so don’t shed a tear.
This rule can apply to many things. Road rage, profanity, temper tantrums, acting the fool around someone else when they should be focusing on you, disrespecting your boundaries and trashing your possessions.
Everyone who agrees to pledge allegiance to the rule of 3 please press the like button on this post and stop allowing others to mistreat you.
Oh Gracie, If we had just known what you are saying when we were young things would have turned out much differently.
Yes, but dear that is why we must teach by example now. How did your counseling session go and where the heck is my personal email?
There is always the off chance that things may have turned out worse. I am much stronger than I have ever been and without all of the battle I would not have my children. They are worth it.
Yes, I am reminded about the children by others. They are a blessing and something good as the result of the marriage. However, all the pain just wasn’t necessary. I mean, why would anyone do something intentionally to hurt another person. And the lies. The lies are the worst. Again, it doesn’t make any since.
Your post ” A Good Person” ties in really well with this one. I liked the way you identified the fact that “they” use our goodness, kindness, and trust as tools against us. In other words, they use our value system against us. They know we are trusting so we originally buy their lies. They know that we value marriage so they push the boundaries knowing we will stick it our for the sake of what we value, our marriage and the way we took it very seriously. And the worst is when they know we value our children and use them as hostages to force us to do what the want. It all just sucks.
Here is a really good example. There was one time when I was objecting to my ex’s behavior trying to explain why it was not healthy for our marriage. You know what she told me? She said ” you’ll never leave our daughter” A statement that translated into ” I can do whatever the hell I want because I know you are not going anywhere for the sake of our daughter” Pathetic really.
Have a wonderful day Gracie.
Yeah, although my ex kept projecting on to me his disregard for the children. He thought I was out all of the time with different men and he is the one who left them twice for other women. His incompetence as a parent astounds me.