When you say you love me…
Do you love me for who I am now or what you think you can force me to become?
Do you really even care about what I want to achieve in this life, if it does not revolve around you?
Do you realize that loyalty and commitment can not be forced upon anyone? They must be earned, just like trust.
Do you realize I may have opposite opinions and viewpoints than you?
If you love me that should not bother you. I am entitled to my own opinion.
If you buy me something that does not mean you own me. It merely means you spent money trying to win my love.
When you constantly state how much money you spent on me I want to throw everything you ever gave me back in your face.
I didn’t need most of the things you bought. You bought them for yourself, not me, so that you could feel as if you added something to my already full life.
How come every time I talk with one of my male friends you assume that they want to sleep with me? Is it because you think they are hunks? Or is it because you view me as a sex object and because you don’t respect me, you assume they won’t?
How come every time I am not totally enmeshed with you, you freak out and get angry? Is my playing Words with Friends on my cell phone with my sister such a horrible thing to do?
How come you get angry every time we are together over some little thing or another but when I get angry you are always concerned that I don’t offend the person I am angry at?
I guess it doesn’t matter if I am offended by your anger does it? Because according to you, you get angry because I am not being loving enough to you. I guess the only thing that matters is whether or not you feel loved.
Do you realize that if you really love someone you don’t have to spend every waking moment thinking about them or being with them? You don’t even need to see them once a month.
I have friends I don’t see more than a couple of times a year. Some of them are men and we say we love each other when we see each other. They have been there for me when I am down and I have done the same for them. These relationships have been platonic and Christ has been the bond between us.
You say that you think God wants us to be together. I wonder why God would want me to be with someone who puts so much stress on me that I can not fulfill His purpose for my life?
You say you don’t think I love you and I agree because trying to love you requires too much.
It requires that I stop loving me.
