As all of us probably know narcissistic people give the appearance of loving themselves way too much.
I was pondering that this morning and I realized that I think that their self-love image is a charade.
In the Bible the second greatest commandment is to love your neighbor as yourself.
Narcissistic people are unable to love others so it would be impossible for them to truly love who they are.
If you look at the narcissist’s in your life with this perspective I believe you may be brought to a point of mercy, grace and maybe even pity.
Knowing this, keep in mind that Christ died for them also. At times I wish he would have been more selective in that arena. lol
Narcissists don’t deserve our pity or any kind of genuine love and support;. They are soul rapist and blood suckers who never gave a crap about us other than what we could do for them to advance their worldly cause in the Pursuit of their own agenda.
Don’t get me started on this breed of human debris
Wow, now I wonder just one thing. What do you really think about narcissistic behavior> lol
Gracie, narcissists are destroyers of all that is good and decent in human relationships.
They purposefully and with motive destroy the lives of others to advance their own agendas.
I could write 30 pages of examples and events but why bother.
That about sums it up right there.
I know dear but whining and complaining about them doesn’t change things. Being kind and compassionate on the other hand may just make them feel like total shit because they don’t have the capacity to be kind and compassionate.
And yet dear one, the Son of God asked for those who crucified Him to be forgiven. Are we so grand that we are better than Him and the sins against us to be remembered instead of forgiven?
I know, I know. You are right, but not totally right. But being kind and compassionate is what got me in this mess in the first place. Kind, Compassionate, Empathetic, Sensitive human beings is what they feed on. So, I disagree with you when you say if we are kind and compassionate they will feel like shit. That is the problem. They do not “feel” anything, at least for others. They only “use” them.
Jesus, Peter, Paul, Stephen, John, all of them all said the same thing “forgive them Father because they do not know what they are doing”. Narcissist’s know what they are doing, never repent, or stoop so low as to ask for forgiveness. So, NO. Right now as far as I am concerned my x and her pathetic father can both rot in hell where they belong, both of them together in a room. Just the two of them. For 20 years when the pathetic piece of trash father in law would come into town, AND STAY AT MY HOUSE, my x would run and lock herself in our room and leave me to entertain him for hours on end. And then he turned her heart away from me and towards him and his money. 7 years ago in one of our first counseling sessions I looked at the counselor and told him our marriage is a marriage of 3. Me, my wife, and her dad. 4 years ago I was in conversation with my wife and looked at her and said ” you have to turn your heart away from your dad and his money and back towards me”. Gracie, that’s how bad it was. This man has destroyed every single life he has ever come into contact with. His middle daughter divorced because of him. And now me. EVERY SINGLE LIFE HE HAS COME INTO CONTACT WITH HAS BEEN DESTROYED AND RUINED, ALL OF THEM OVER 70 YEARS. NO EXCEPTIONS. That’s what breaks my heart so much, because if me and my x were left alone we would be OK. I rant to much. Good Night Gracie.
Good night dear.
Don’t worry Gracie. I still have some anger burning in my heart but it won’t be there for much longer. It used to be there all day everyday but now it only pops it’s ugly head out from time to time and I don’t like it “AT ALL” Its not productive and I know it. So over time I will process this anger, put it in a little box and file it away forever. I believe that is the final stage that is called “acceptance” I wish there was a base or something where you could just run to and then be done with it all and find acceptance and peace as soon as you touched the base. Unfortunately it doesn’t work that way. I spent way to much time in denial and let my boundaries be trampled over and over, hence lots of anger.
I am going to play golf this afternoon and hopefully win back my two trophies. One for the best score overall and one for the best score on the 18th hole.
Good luck on that golfing game buddy.
Golf was great today. All of your post for the last few days are amazing.
Good Night Gracie.