I went on another interview the other day. I had gotten hired by one company but I could see that they didn’t have a lot of clients in my neck of the woods. Since they didn’t reimburse for mileage or training I decided to keep searching for a job.
The secretary at this new company was sweet enough to send me the application via email. I filled it out and got a spiffy new copy of my resume’ ready to go and then set up a time to meet the Administrator.
When I got out of my car in the parking lot of the business I left my purse and my cell phone in the car.
I was ushered into the conference room and sat down at a huge table with two beautiful orchids as the centerpiece.
As I sat there I became nervous. I had nothing to distract me. For someone with ADHD the potential to become bored is our foremost fear. We are constantly trying to engage our mind in new challenges.
More than that I felt one thing.
I felt naked.I had no cell phone and no purse. All I had was the application and my resume’.
The administrator came in and the clinical supervisor entered the room. They were both beyond lovely.
I talked with them about my work history and they were very engaging. The meeting was actually a lot of fun.
When I left I wondered why I had had felt so naked without all of my stuff. I really only needed my resume’ and my application. I sure didn’t need my cell phone or my purse to launch a job with a great company.
I realized that I used these things as a buffer in my life.
If a networking meeting with other business professionals bores me I usually go through my purse to reorganize it.
If I am bored when I am out with friends I quickly start a game of solitaire on my cell phone.
I think a lot of people use cell phones to engage in conversations with others but I think they are also used as buffers when they don’t feel comfortable in a situation.
It is so easy to ignore the person sitting across the table when I am having dinner by texting someone else who is much more engaging than the dinner partner.
Or maybe the truth is that it is me who is not that interesting.
One of the problems with society today and especially with me, because I have a touch of ADHD, is that we seldom live in the moment. We are constantly distracted by technology and we are so busy we don’t even really listen to the people that God has placed in our pathway.
That is such a shame because we won’t be able to take our cell phones or our Ipads to heaven or hell. It is just us, nothing else, that travels into eternity.
After this wonderful interview I came to the conclusion that I needed to be naked a bit more often.
It seems to suit me well because I got the job. YIPPEE!
It is amazing that in such a few short years we have gone from not having cell phones (I remember as a home care nurse, looking for pay phones to call a client) to feeling weird without them. I agree, we do need to test ourselves occasionally to make sure we can still survive without being connected to a device.
So true! I remember those days of looking for a pay phone also. I thought it was crazy that my parents insisted that they buy me a cell phone. I think that thing was so big and I never used it. I wouldn’t be caught without my cell phone now when out in the field. It is interesting though as to how it seems to be a shield for me and it allows me to brush off people. I try to go without it as much as I possibly can. Thanks so much for the comment and the like. Hugs!