I studied Freud when I was in high school. Even then I was not impressed. It seemed like a jacked up way to look at life.
The problem that I have with modern day psychology is that there is not one damn thing I can do to change my parents or my childhood. If I get stuck there with all that was done wrong I will be stuck in a cage of my past.
To learn from the mistakes is one thing but to be caged is another. I have tried to raise my kids in a very different way than my parents raised me and I think I was successful for the most part.
I have learned that I can not change my parents. My mother will always be a screamer and will treat my dad with disdain. She and him will also be somewhat narcissistic in their view of life.
What I can do is forgive them. It is a constant process.
As I forgive them I loose the wounds that they have sought to inflict upon my heart and I give those wounds to God for healing. He has healed a great many wounds in my heart with the counsel of the Holy Spirit.
They will still be negative and try to thwart every good act I do. They will still try to make me into their image but I will resist and cling instead to the image of God.
The act of forgiveness is a way of life. It is not one specific act but it is the only act which can make you fly into freedom and experience the destiny which is to be your future.
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Love this… “only important for them to know the God who is within me.”… YOU GOT IT SISTER!!! Love you, my friend. May God bless our paths as we blog for Him…
believe me I have been in anger and indignation for quite some time and I fight that spirit as I go back through my family court trials. I would rather have a spirit of forgiveness and grace though- it is a much better feeling. 🙂
Gracie, as I read this post I see and feel wisdom, passion, acceptance, and a little bit of pain and anger. You are a writer and as a reader of your post I am just telling you what I feel when I read what has come out of your heart. To say to you that I feel anything else would be a lie and I don’t lie well. I am not going to address the content of this post because that would be pointless. As a writer, and that is what you are, you strive to evoke an emotional or intellectual response from your readers and so I am just telling you what I feel and think while reading what you have written.
My main point is that you evoke an emotional response when I read your words. They are not dull or uneventful, or boring. And that my friend is what a good writer is supposed to do.
Wow! That just totally made my day! What a beautiful encouraging comment to lift me up. Would you mind if I quoted you in a book I am currently writing on how to turn a blog into a business? I am also in the process of developing a seminar for other bloggers with a friend of mine and your words are golden as far as giving other writers a lead as to how to write a story. I would need your permission though and I will protect your identity. I do that in all of my writing. I even do that for myself. I write under a pen name. It really is not important for people to know who I am it is only important for them to know the God who is within me. Let me know if I have your permission to quote you in some of my work. That is just the sweetest thing that anyone has ever written about my work. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Gracie, you absolutely have my permission to use my words. They are the truth. A good writer is supposed to evoke an emotional response, either negative or positive depending on the intention of the writer, and make the reader “think” and maybe even look at a situation differently than they have before. It doesn’t hurt that you write the truth blended with your life experience which makes it kinda cool.
Write On.
Thanks dearie. I am going to write down what you say because what you say is what people are looking for in a writer. Words of wisdom dear man. 🙂