I had dated the man for over four years. There were times throughout our relationship when I knew I loved him but there were more times when we fought viciously with each other.

He was very generous with me and my children and said he wanted to marry me from our first date.

I didn’t know I even had any feelings for him until we had dated for six months.

Finally after four and a half years I was fed up and I basically tried to go no-contact with him.

He continued to pursue me. At first he called me cold and heartless for breaking up with him. He asked me why I had broken up with him and wanted to talk with me.

Problem was I had been talking to him for over four years about my issues with the relationship and he hadn’t listened. My thinking was why would he listen now?

Then he said he had gotten close to God and he had forgiven me. I bristled at the thought that he was using the “God” card.

Last week someone put me in a bind and I knew the only way I could get out of this bind was to contact this man. So I did.

We had to meet. He said he wanted to tell me about his God experience.

I thought, “Yeah, I want to see if this is really a God experience or just another play for my emotions.”

When we met he said one night as he was laying in bed and thinking of me, he heard the words, “Forgive her. Deep down in your heart you need to forgive her.”

He said a dark cloud lifted from his soul in that very moment.

But that is not the most amazing thing. The most amazing thing is what God did next. He showed him all of the times he had hurt or disrespected me.

He is a sweet soul and he was mortified. He said he needed to confess a lot of this to me.

I don’t know that I actually need that because I forgive pretty easily but if he needs to do it I will listen and give him the forgiveness he seeks.

This experience leaves me in awe of God. When he asks you to forgive someone for what they have done to hurt you I think it is totally awesome that the way he does that is to show you how you hurt them first.

Somehow when we look in the mirror of truth it becomes harder to throw stones at another person’s glass house.

I am still so awed by God sometimes it makes my brain go all mushy.

The afternoon that we spent together was delightful. When he wasn’t confessing to me some of his supposed wrong doing we were busting out in laughter.

Maybe that is what happens when two people learn to let go and forgive, joy takes the place of bitterness and unforgiveness, and life can be lived to the fullest extent. Isn’t that what life should be all about?