I went to dinner tonight with a good friend. I had heard that she was going through a difficult time with her marriage and during dinner she admitted a divorce was on the horizon for her.

We chatted about life in general and I told her my thoughts on a second marriage. That is that I would much rather be single than be unhappily married again.

Most people freak out when I say I am content with being single. It isn’t always a walk in the park but I refuse to let my lack of a partner take center stage in my life.

I have numerous girlfriends who allow the search for a significant other to eclipse all other goals in their life. I feel sorry for them.

I the past I dated several men who were certain that I would marry them. One has claimed that I am God’s chosen one for him.

Yet, this man has lied to me on several occasions and I know my God would not want me to marry someone who is dishonest.

I talked with my friend about the red flags that we, as women, choose to ignore when dating a man.

We overlook the childish temper tantrums, the profanity, the gross table manners because we think that we can change them with enough time.

That is an unrealistic expectation and is not fair to either party.