I talked with my son in Florida yesterday. He said that he thought his dad would pay for the whole flight to and from Texas.
Then he dropped the bomb. He didn’t know if he would be able to spend more than a day with me during the holiday season because his dad was paying for the flight.
It seems as if I won the fight only to lose the battle. lol
I have paid for so many things for my children above and beyond what has been required.
This is the first time I have refused to pay for something that their dad has conned them into thinking I should be responsible for.
It is a hard thing for me to do but when dealing with a narcissist if you keep buckling under they just get more power and continue to manipulate others for their own benefit.
Can you change a narcissist? I doubt it.
What you can do is change yourself so that they can not control you.
What a great response to the blame and control game so common in broken relationships. Accepting your part and what you cannot change, recognizing your son’s heart and desire to include you in his life, willing to enjoy what you do have instead of focusing on what you don’t get to have (this time). A great example of accepting life on it’s terms and choosing to be your best in spite of the circumstances. A True Overcomer!
You are such an encourager. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart! I was thinking yesterday as to how much I missed our meetings and was wondering if you had any time next week for a meeting. I miss your counsel and your presence in my life. It is wonderful to have your words coming into my life daily though and this latest note meant so much to me. Thanks!
You are so right Gracie Lynne. We can not change anyone… only God can change them… or take them (LOL). Unfortunately, our children are the ones in the middle. All we can do is pray for God’s guidance and then walk in obedience to what He tells us to do. The battle is not loss. God never loses. As you prayerfully give it all to him and keep Him in every decision, you will be successful for He will lead the way. I pray that your children will be able to spend many days with you. I pray that God will change your ex’s heart, to soften it, and transform it where the children will come first above his own desires. I will keep praying that you will see God’s Hand move in your favor. Love you, my sister!!!
Love you too darling! So so very much! I would so love it if my Boaz would come. It would be so much easier to handle all of this if I had the God’s annointed man in my life.