This Thanksgiving was different than most for me. I only had one person other than myself at my table. My son was with me for Thanksgiving.
I usually go all overboard on the holidays. I cook and bake all kinds of yummy stuff.
This year was different. I baked a small turkey, small potato casserole, muffins, tried out a new cranberry salad and baked a pumpkin and pecan pie.
I didn’t want left overs because I was planning on leaving for a short trip right after the holiday.
I didn’t have many left overs but what I did have was mostly eaten the day after the holiday.
I felt guilty at first for not going overboard and then I realized that if I had, I would have had to throw out a lot of food. What sense is there to that?
My son enjoyed what I cooked and we had a good weekend together. I just wasn’t totally stressed out with all of the baking.
It may be the smartest Thanksgiving I have ever hosted. I may just do it again next year.
Hope everyone’s Thanksgiving was awesome and that everyone had a celebratory time with family.
So glad that you have a good Thanksgiving… low stress always works for me!! Blessings to you, my friend!!
Thanks! I hope you had a good Thanksgiving also. It is good to hear from you again. I have missed you.
Hey Gracie,
My daughter mentioned one thing particular about this Thanksgiving with my family. NO STRESS, that is almost always caused by the ex. Just a relaxed packing up the pies to take to my parents, no rush, no fuss. I can tell you a couple really good N stories about Thanksgiving if you want to hear them. Keep a tissue handy, not for tears of sadness but laughter.
Go ahead and write the funny stories. I love to laugh.:)
Have you seen the newest Vampire TV series called “The Originals”? The originals were the very first Vampires and therefore really good at being a vampire. Anyway, My ex N wife has a dad that is an “Original Narc” He raised my ex N wife to be just like him, the perfect golden child. They are such a cute couple together. Both manipulating each other to get what they want. My ex N thought she was manipulating him but he is so good its was really the other way around.
Anyway, the Ex’s N dad has run everyone off in his life so he has to come stay are our house for thanksgiving. Back in the day before he gained complete control over her, she would cry in my arms saying “why does he have to come stay for a week and ruin my whole week?”
So my ex, my daughter, and dear ol dad would go to my families for thankgiving. One time he butted to the front of the salad line by saying ” I know there are a limited # of this ? on the salad (my ex w N made the salad so he knew what was on it) and I want to make sure and get some of it.” He really said that. My family is very laid back so basically everyone just laughed about it.
At the next Thanksgiving my Ex N asks or commands her dear ol dad to please go pick up some wine for the dinner as a hostess gift. She specifically tells him, “not the cheap wine dad, you know what is good” So he buys two bottles of decent wine, brings them to the dinner and sets them on the wine table. Now my parents as hosts had already selected the wine that would be served for the dinner, therefore the “gift” wine was not opened. After all the pie etc and we were leaving, dear ol dad grabs the wine to take them home. We are in the car when my ex N notices her dad with the two bottles of “gift” wine in his hands. She is like, Dad, what are you doing? He says, well they weren’t open so I just was going to take them home.
My parents had witnessed the whole thing and just laughed and laughed
So there you go Gracie, I have many more dear ol N dad stories if you want to read them. Some of them will make you cry and laugh at the same time. Remember, he is an original, so he is really good at the narc stuff.
Obviously he is a champ in the narcissist department. lol
I actually had a great trip home to see my parents after Thanksgiving. My mother has touches of narcissism but she is also very kind and sweet in a lot of ways. I tried to help both of my parents out a lot while I was there. She suggested that I move back home and take care of them and she would pay me. She couldn’t pay me enough to give up my life though and that is what that would be. I would be totally at her disposal and miserable. I politely declined.
My ex decided to pull a fast one on me for this Christmas. He bought a one way ticket for my son in Florida to come to Texas to celebrate the holidays with us. My ex lives about 35 miles from me. He didn’t ask me or tell me about this before he did it and then he tells my son that I am responsible for the ticket back to Florida.
I don’t have the money to do that and I refused to do it. This really plays on the emotions of my children and he comes out looking like a champ and I come out looking like a scrooge. He has done this shit before and I have always given in. I refuse to do that anymore because I really don’t have any money.
Elemental lessons of consideration and respect totally escape the brain of this man.
btw that story about your ex’s dad taking back the wine reminds me of one of my posts about my daughter. She had given me some beautiful earrings for Christmas one year. She moved back in to my home this January and a couple of months ago I was looking in her room for something and dang it if I didn’t see those earrings right back in her room! I have heard of regifting but I have never heard of retaking! lol So I snapped those earrings up and brought them back down to my bedroom. Silly girl. She is a bit of a narcissist too. I don’t know that she can help it she has it coming down both blood lines, poor thing.
Hey I wanted to let you know that I wasn’t slamming dad’s in my post yesterday I was just slamming Rick Warren for completely ignoring the importance of the Mom in a kid’s life.