I was invited to a Church gathering over the weekend. I had a delicious breakfast but it curdled in my stomach when the preacher started preaching. The topic was on Men, Marriage and Money. I was looking forward to it but as usual I had my radar up.

The first thing that offended me was when the pastor alluded to a woman who had married four very wealthy husbands. They had all died but she had profited from each relationship. When asked how she managed to get four wealthy men she said “She immersed herself in their world.”

That indicates to me that that women had no identity of her own. Neither did she have any self confidence, for to immerse yourself in someone else you must not know who you are.

Alas, though, is being Christian not immersing yourself in the identity of Christ? Yes, it is, but since Christ is your creator and was present at that momentous event, to immerse yourself in Him is only to know yourself more fully.

I have had boyfriends who wanted me to immerse myself in them and it drove me nuts. Those men brought out a side of me which I didn’t even know I had. I became a very cold and heartless person to them and that is not who Jesus created me to be.

I believe the heavenly Father would not want a woman to give up her identity for any man. Jesus never treated women with disdain.

But doesn’t the Bible say that a woman is to submit to her husband?

Yes, it does, but submission is showing respect to a man, not abandoning who you are for a man. If God really wanted us to just be an extension of a man don’t you think he could have attached another arm to a man and called that his wife?

The only bridegroom worthy immersion and total submission is Jesus. I believe that Jesus wants us to be women of honor for Him. Not someone’s door mat to get a wealthy lifestyle.

Tomorrow I will expose more of the lies that this preacher propagated. When someone uses a pulpit to spread false doctrine I get riled up.