The media frenzy over The 50 Shades of Grey movie is out of control. The only good thing about it is that at least we don’t have to hear any more about J K Rowlings. Kind of reminds me of how glad I was to not hear about Paris Hilton anymore. Now I just have to put up with Kim Kardashian. That is kind of like not having to vomit because you have loose stools.

I have been thinking a lot about this latest craze and wondering exactly what is fueling this. Do women really want to be abused in relationships? Is abuse sexy? I don’t think it is but what is actually behind this?

I think it may be that women are wanting men to be masculine again. It is nice when a man is successful and has it all together like the man in the fifty shades book. The excessive amount of money he had was definitely a plus. Having your own helicopter is a cool way to get places. But are those things worth more than your dignity?

Is the fascination with BDSM a rebound from feminism? Have we reduced men to such an extent that now they think they have to abuse us to get us to submit?

I think men may be intimidated by women who are feminist. I know I am quite feminist in my viewpoint but I prefer men who are masculine and I rarely intimidate men who are masculine. It seems as if we come to a point of mutual respect, which happens when you have two confident and successful people in a relationship.

I may be over thinking this BDSM thing though. This may just be a passing fancy because married people are, for the most part, bored with their sex lives. They may just need a little spice.

It is a bit ironic that the same media which was crucifying NFL players for being rough with their wives is now lauding a book which glorifies abuse as something which is erotic.

I personally have made a decision to boycott the series of books and any movies of this nature and would encourage my readers to choose books which reflect the reality of abuse. I recently read an excellent novel by Liane Moriarty called Big Little Lies. It is one of the best books I have read and realistic in portraying the way that abuse can seep into a “perfect” marriage.