I have seen it happen in my life and also the life of some people whom I dearly love. We choose to love someone who does not see the value that God has created in us. We choose to love the wrong person and we suffer great heartache as a result.

My daughter dated a young man for a couple of years and they even lived and worked together.

I loved the kid like a son. We had some awesome talks and I valued his intelligence and drive for success.

I loved him a lot more before the two of them moved in with me.

Then I began to wonder what she saw in him. He was constantly trying to change her by criticizing her. I saw her countenance fall more than once with his harsh words.

The way he treated her was the way my ex had treated me and I knew that she was in for a load of heartache if she continued in the relationship. It wasn’t that he was bad kid it was only that he wasn’t good for her.

I started praying about the situation because it was becoming difficult for me to have him live in my home with the way he was treating her. He had also become disrespectful to me.

In a couple of weeks she broke up with him and he moved out.

I was so relieved but concerned for how she would handle the breakup. She moped around for a couple of days and then she started to redecorate her room.

She also reconnected with all of her friends from high school and started becoming the social butterfly she had once been. She was amazing.

Soon after she met a wonderful young man at a concert that she attended with one of her girlfriends. He feeds her spirit with love and encouragement. He builds her up with words instead of tearing her down.

We were talking one day after she got home from work and I told her to be thankful for her previous relationship. She may have never realized the gem she has currently if she had not dated the man who did not see her value.

Even though both men have value the one who sees the value in my daughter is the one who has her heart.

If you love someone for who they are and they don’t value who you are, you may be loving the wrong person.