It can happen so easily. The “other woman” slides into marriage on the heels of compassion. She is the husbands’ “confidant.”
Soon the man chooses to discuss the difficulties of his marriage with this woman. The woman is understanding and comforting, not angry and stubborn like his wife. His marriage continues to deteriorate.
Does this marriage have a chance? Not much of one. The logic in this technique of marriage repair is flawed.
Would you get a broken window fixed by talking to your neighbor about it, doing nothing to repair the break?
Then why would you talk to another person of the opposite sex about problems that only you and your spouse can solve?
Meanwhile the “other woman” is fluffing her feathers. Thinking how great she is compared to your nasty wife. She is just listening, showing compassion, providing a shoulder for you to cry on. I mean, what is wrong with that?
Then temptation comes knocking at the door. The emotional affair becomes physical. The sex is fantastic and addictive.
Meanwhile his marriage is crumbling. Why? He has emotionally, intellectually and physically detached from his wife.
A person can not love two people equally. One will always win out.
The “other woman” fancies herself to be the savior of this man. She can solve his problems and make his world wonderful. All of his problems originate from the person he chose to marry.
As far as I know, there is only one savior, Jesus Christ. Unless you are God’s son and willing to die on a cross, you just don’t have that kind of power.
The other problem is, you can not find a positive solution to a problem using the devil’s remedy. The devil is negative, sin has consequences and karma will come back to get you. I guarantee it.
So how do you avoid wrecking a family? You refrain from the first step. Do NOT become a married man’s confidant.
As a single mother, who is considered to be somewhat attractive, I have made it a point to set firm and clear boundaries with husbands.
I will not waste my time hearing a man whine about his wife. Go to a counselor, that is what they get paid for.
If you say anything regarding my friend, who happens to be your wife, which is in any way demeaning or questionable I will take her side.
If you think you can go behind her back and see me. I will tell you the truth. “There is not even a remote possibility.”
There are so many women and men who are devastated by the break up of their marriage. It only takes one person to wreck a family and likewise, it only takes one to protect a marriage and a family.
It is our choice what kind of person we are. I hope you choose well.
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