I met with my friend David the other day and once again he dropped nuggets of wisdom into my lap.

I told him about my daughter’s new boyfriend and what a great relationship they had in comparison to her last boyfriend.

I told him how concerned I was when I saw how her old boyfriend treated her and that I found him very similar to her dad in some of his behaviors and mannerisms.

During the time she was dating him I was dating a man who was very similar to my ex and also my mother. Some good traits were present but a lot more bad traits were apparent.

When I broke up with this last boyfriend I felt such a sense of freedom and relief. I felt as if I could be myself again instead of who he was trying to make me into.

She knew that I was miserable in that relationship. Everyone did, I could not stop complaining about the dynamics of the relationship and I was turning into the exact thing I have hated all of my life. That being my negative and complaining mother.

What amazed me is that my daughter went from a man who was a narcissist to a man who is Prince Charming and a mutual admiration is at work between the two.

I asked David how she could have done that because so few women do.

He said that I broke the generational curse by breaking up with my last boyfriend. That I finally realized that love was about making me happy, not always about making the other person happy at the expense of my own happiness.

Breaking generational curses is a gift of happiness that you can give not only to your children but theirs also. It just keeps on giving.